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Ok, so, can we talk about something? Self-help dating books for women. Why. Are. They. So. Dumb? Self-help books can have their place, and can be an effective method for finding some perspective and self-awareness without shelling out major dough for a therapist (or annoying your friends to death with endless discussions of your problems). But, come on. Make Every Man Want You? Why Men Love Bitches? The Power of the P*ssy?! We just…we can’t.
These books treat women like we’re all weepy doormats and the only "problem" we have that needs solving is the lack of a man in our lives. Not to mention the fact that they treat relationships like they’re something for women to “figure out,” rather than an equal partnership that requires effort from both parties involved — because that would just be lunacy, obvi.
So, without further ado, here is our round-up of the worst, cheesiest, most laughable self-help books for women. The scariest part of this, in our minds, is that these books are bestsellers, meaning that smart, logical, well-educated, beautiful women actually buy into this junk.
True, there may be some lessons to be learned in a few of these books, but the fact that they’re packaged in these generalized, insulting, heart-cat-and-lipstick-adorned covers is ridiculous, and we won’t have it. We're also not sure what's worse: The male authors telling us what's "wrong" with us, or the female authors who just further ridiculous gender typecasting by writing this drivel.
Click through, have a good laugh, and amaze with us over the fact that yes, these books actually exist.