If You Have A Clitoris, You Have To Read These Masturbation Tips

If you have a vagina, you've probably heard about the enigmatic clitoris, the supposed "magic button" that can give you orgasms capable of solving world peace. While yes, the clit exists — and yes, it can give you amazing orgasms — it's a bit more complicated than that.
Much of the clit is actually internal, and the size varies from person to person. Add in differences in what turns you on (one person's Idris Elba is another's Kristen Stewart), and knowing how exactly to use that clitoris to achieve orgasms can get confusing. So, whether you consider yourself well-educated in your anatomy, or you're too scared to put a mirror down there to see what's going on, we think all people with clitorises could benefit from some tips on how to utilize that divine part of their anatomy.
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The good news? Clitoral orgasms are the most common type people with vaginas experience. Read on to learn the best masturbation techniques that will help you unlock the so-called "magical" powers of your clit.
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Remember that practice makes perfect.

Especially if you’re new to touching yourself, it may take time until you figure out what technique works best. As they say, practice makes perfect. Some people prefer using their hands, others do better with toys, and some people prefer siting backwards on a toilet while the water from a bidet gets them off. Masturbate as much as you want, and eventually, you'll find what you like best.

Then, if you want, you can share what you've learned with your current or future partners, so they also know how to pleasure y0u.
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Set the mood.

It’s basically impossible to get off if loud music you don't even like is playing, if the lighting is too harsh, or if the television is on in the background. Before you begin masturbating, set the mood, just like you would for partnered sex. Put on sexy music, light some candles, and even put on some porn of your choosing if you'd like.
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Experiment with various finger movements.

Do you prefer circles, diagonal motions, or light tapping on your clitoris? You’ll never know until you try.
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Know your anatomy.

When people speak of the clitoris, they're usually referring to the portion that sticks out at the top of the labia. But, as we mentioned, most of the clitoris is actually internal and extends along the two shafts that sit at either side of the vagina. For some, the clit is rather exposed; for others, it's hidden under the clitoral hood, the skin that surrounds the glans that caps the clitoris. (And unfairly, those with smaller clits supposedly have fewer orgasms.)

Due to such variations, some people with vaginas prefer direct clitoral contact, while others like to be stimulated slightly above or below the visible clit. This is why it's a good idea to take a hand mirror and spend some time admiring your genitals. Of course, since most of the clit is internal, to really get to know it, you're going to have to use your hands.
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Keep most of your focus on your clit.

When you're touching yourself or using sex toys, if your goal is to orgasm, it's best to keep most of the focus on the clit. This is especially important if you're new to masturbation. By all means, play with your nipples, add penetration, and try anal play (if you’re ready). But more than likely, your clit is going to get you off, so start there.
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DJ.

This is a method we've touted again and again, because it works so well. All you have to do is take a few fingers, flatten them, and rub the clit in circular motions like a DJ would while spinning a record.
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Go diagonal.

While some people with clits are into the way circular motions feel, others enjoy a back-and-forth diagonal move. To do this, take two to three fingers, flatten them, and gently rub your clit back and forth in diagonal motions, increasing in speed and intensity as you desire. You still get to be a DJ — you're just scratching a record, rather than spinning it.
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Add penetration.

When you’ve found your rhythm rubbing your clit, all those delightful feelings can be heightened with penetration. Add a finger or two inside your vagina for dual penetrative and clitoral stimulation. Just gently insert one finger into your vagina and press it against the anterior wall (where the G-spot is said to exist). After you've slid one in and out, add another, or try out a dildo.
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Give lube a chance.

Especially if you’re going to add penetration, lube is key. Even if you're just rubbing your clit, that repeated motion can create friction — which, over time, can feel like a rug burn if you don't have lubrication. So lube is your friend in this masturbatory adventure.
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Try different positions.

Are you starting to feel weird lying on your back rubbing your clit staring at the ceiling fan? Try lying on your stomach, or moving into solo spoon position (sideways) while you masturbate, or propping a pillow underneath your bum.
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