Amy Schumer’s Powerful Message About Abusive Relationships

Photo: C Flanigan/Getty Images.
When Amy Schumer announced that she was writing a book, we expected that the collection of essays would be as hilarious, bawdy, and brilliant as the comedian herself. What we didn't expect, however, were some heartbreaking revelations from Schumer's past, including a dive into her experiences with non-consensual sex as well as an abusive relationship that she was in during her early twenties.

In the book, titled The Girl with the Lower Back Tattoo, Schumer opens up about a physically and emotionally abusive relationship, recalling that her then-boyfriend often shoved her to the ground during arguments. In excerpts, courtesy of People and E! News, Schumer wrote that during a particularly heated argument one night, "he grabbed a huge butcher knife from a drawer. And that's when I was sure he was going to kill me."

Schumer escaped, and while discussing the incident is undoubtedly difficult, she had some powerful words for anyone with similar experiences.

"It can happen to anyone," she wrote. "You're not alone if it's happening to you, and you're not exempt if it hasn't happened to you yet."

Schumer, who described herself in the essay as "strong, assertive, and independent," wrote in another part of the essay that she knew at the time she should have left her boyfriend, "but I thought no one would ever love me as much as he did."

According to the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence, one in three women will experience some form of domestic violence in her lifetime, and 60% of these incidents happen in the home.

Schumer's comments shed light on how difficult it can be to leave an abusive relationship, and they also tear down the idea that it's a sign of weakness or somehow your fault if a partner resorts to physical or verbal abuse. To Schumer's words we would add that the signs of abuse aren't always cut-and-dry, and it's never too late to seek help.
Advertisement
If you are experiencing domestic violence, please call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 or TTY 1-800-787-3224 for confidential support.
Advertisement

More from Sex & Relationships

Aside from encountering creeps and starting conversations that just don't go anywhere, one major problem online daters face is catfishing. According to a...
A version of this story originally appeared on Shape. When it comes to female pleasure, there's enough misinformation out there to fill a book. One of ...
This article was originally published on December 18, 2015. According to stereotypes, men are the sexually voracious cheaters and women are the ...
Amber Rose doesn't do "off days." "I always feel confident," she tells us. "I never allow myself to not feel confident. I wake up and say, I’m going out ...
We're great fans of accessorizing in the bedroom. Au naturel stimulation is wonderful, but sex toys can do things that people just can't. The sex toy ...
Even as the sex toy market continues to expand, there remain a few vital "firsts" for the industry to tackle. This week, with the arrival of the Buck-Off...
The Halloween-costume-planning frenzy is officially in full swing, and we still have so many questions. Is our costume idea clever without being obscure? ...
(Paid Content) You don't need a degree in common sense to know getting involved with a coworker is a bad idea. Yet, we probably all know someone who has, ...
This article was originally published on April 2, 2015 and has been updated throughout. Lube is a little like masturbation. It's a big part of most people...
It would be an understatement to say that a lot of us love superhero blockbusters. Luckily, there's really no shortage of them, but should you ever need ...
The following is an excerpt from Asa Akira's recently released memoir Dirty Thirty. Another year of wasted eggs because I chose to whore instead. “Do ...
In the best-case scenario, you go on a first date with someone, and you hit it off. The chemistry is off the charts, and you're never at a loss for what to...
Even if you think you’re not kinky, there’s a chance your brain might be. And when it comes to getting turned on and orgasming, our brains deserve more ...
Lord Ivar Mountbatten, a cousin of Queen Elizabeth's, became the first out member of the British Royal Family when he came out as bisexual last week. In ...