How Rough Is Too Rough? — & More Sex Questions Answered In Bed

Sex education is necessary to understanding not only how sex works, but also how to treat people with respect, find pleasure, and keep each other safe in bed (and in the world). But sex ed doesn't stop after formal education ends — unfortunately, for many people, that's when the real sex ed begins.

This is where people like me come in. I began working at the sex-toy shop The Pleasure Chest in New York's West Village after college. At first, it was just a job I had to pay rent and my student loans, but it ended up being this incredible education about safe sex and sexual freedom — not to mention how to negotiate wants, use requested language in bed, and all the different reasons, ways, and styles people use sex toys. I ended up becoming a sex educator for the store, and I created and taught workshops on many different topics and spoke at colleges.

Now that I'm at Refinery29, I've decided to share some of the wisdom I learned during my years as a sex educator in the video above. From finding boundaries during "rough" sex to teaching your partner to help you orgasm, I tackle a few of R29 readers' questions about sex — straight from a cozy bed. Watch the video above for a fun dose of sex ed. And remember: There's no such thing as a dumb sex question. Oh, and consent is beyond sexy.

More from Sex & Relationships

Historically, women in West Africa have not had a voice. Men decide if their wife or wives can use birth control or have access to money; fathers decide if...
Foreplay often doesn't get enough credit — not to mention time or attention. In one study of heterosexual couples published in the Journal of Sexual ...
Aside from encountering creeps and starting conversations that just don't go anywhere, one major problem online daters face is catfishing. According to a...
Amber Rose doesn't do "off days." "I always feel confident," she tells us. "I never allow myself to not feel confident. I wake up and say, I’m going out ...
A version of this story originally appeared on Shape. When it comes to female pleasure, there's enough misinformation out there to fill a book. One of ...
This article was originally published on December 18, 2015. According to stereotypes, men are the sexually voracious cheaters and women are the ...
We're great fans of accessorizing in the bedroom. Au naturel stimulation is wonderful, but sex toys can do things that people just can't. The sex toy ...
(Paid Content) You don't need a degree in common sense to know getting involved with a coworker is a bad idea. Yet, we probably all know someone who has, ...
Even as the sex toy market continues to expand, there remain a few vital "firsts" for the industry to tackle. This week, with the arrival of the Buck-Off...
The Halloween-costume-planning frenzy is officially in full swing, and we still have so many questions. Is our costume idea clever without being obscure? ...
This article was originally published on April 2, 2015 and has been updated throughout. Lube is a little like masturbation. It's a big part of most people...
It would be an understatement to say that a lot of us love superhero blockbusters. Luckily, there's really no shortage of them, but should you ever need ...
The following is an excerpt from Asa Akira's recently released memoir Dirty Thirty. Another year of wasted eggs because I chose to whore instead. “Do ...
In the best-case scenario, you go on a first date with someone, and you hit it off. The chemistry is off the charts, and you're never at a loss for what to...