How The Term "Daddy Issues" Is Used To Shame Women

"Usually when I hear the term 'daddy issues', it's from someone being super-judgey over how a woman is dressed,

"Hey, maybe she does, or maybe she just wants to show off her cool-ass boobs,"
Advertisement

When we say a woman has "daddy issues," what are we saying about her? Anyone whose relationship with his or her father negatively affects his or her current relationships could be said to have these "issues." The term is most often used, though, when we assume that a woman we perceive as attention-seeking or unlucky in love is acting on the basis of a messed-up father-daughter dynamic.

In the latest episode of her series Report Card on Refinery29's comedy channel, RIOT, comedian Shannon Coffey explores the definition of "daddy issues" and how the term is used to shame women.

"I think it's always used to describe acting out for attention, but specifically male attention," her guest and fellow comedian Naomi Ekperigin points out.

"It's important to remember that men also have 'daddy issues,' not just women," adds psychologist Niloo Dardashti, PsyD.

It's also important to remember that unless you're a woman's therapist, it's not your role to ascribe anything about her to her relationship with her father. "Usually when I hear the term 'daddy issues,' it's from someone being super judge-y over how a woman is dressed," Coffey says — and while maybe she does have a complicated relationship with her dad, "maybe she just wants to show off her cool-ass boobs!"

View the video above for more thoughts on this loaded term.

Advertisement

More from Mind

Your birth control is supposed to bring you peace of mind, but could it be affecting your mental health in a negative way? A large new study suggests a ...
As told to Amelia Harnish I never imagined I’d be a person who left college the same day I arrived. For me, venturing off to school had high stakes. ...
No one goes through life trying to be a horrible person. But sometimes, it's a challenge to go that extra mile (or even just a few steps) out of your way...
(Paid Content) Taking short breaks during the workday can bring your sanity back to earth. Of course, they have a calming effect, but did you know breaks ...
Living with anxiety can feel like a constant battle. You have to stay alert to catch anxiety creeping up on you, and it can turn into an all-day fight to ...
We explore the unconscious messages a voice can give off and why snap judgments can be harmful, even if they're innocent
It's not always easy to predict how much you're going to drink when you go out — or how drunk you'll actually get. And according to a new study, your ...
(Paid Content) Moods are fickle things. You can be going about your day in a happy, productive, and calm manner, and boom — everything changes. And ...
This story was originally published on May 19, 2016. A few years ago, I called my dad for one of our weekly chats — but he wasn’t happy to hear from me...
As much as it sucks, anxiety doesn’t have to be a bad thing. Without a little bit of it, you wouldn’t make sure to show up on time to that job interview or...
This story was originally published on May 19, 2016. I am six years old, in the first grade girls’ bathroom with my friend. We are washing our hands. ...
This story was originally published on Jul. 19, 2016. Several months ago, a woman I’m very close to checked herself into a hospital because she’d been ...
This article was originally published on May 27, 2015. Now that pot legislation is making its way across the country, it's time for a refresher on the ...
Depression is one of the most common mental-health issues in the United States, and it affects roughly twice as many women as men. Yet new research ...