3 Ways To Feel More Confident Instantly

Photographed by Winnie Au.
As the video below points out, "be more confident" can be the absolute worst thing to hear. It fails to take into account how you actually feel, and it's not really advice; it's more of an order. That is not to say that you can't help yourself feel confident. But it takes a lot more than just being — confidence is a complex combination of self-esteem, optimism, and courage.

Finding and maintaining your confidence is a lifelong project, to be sure. Here are a few little things you can do for yourself when you need a boost, courtesy of the TED-Ed video series and the Always #LikeAGirl campaign.

Find A Quick Fix
Any bass-heavy music that makes you strut, rather than stroll, is at the very least fun to listen to, and it might even trick you into feeling more powerful than you did a moment ago. Might we make a few suggestions?

Be Flexible
When we called building your confidence a "project," we meant it. You can get so wrapped up in the challenge you're currently facing that you forget how adaptable you truly are. If you approach a problem ready to change your perspective or approach, you're already closer to solving it than if you thought you were only capable of fixing it one exact way.

Practice Failure
The flip side of the second tip: It's important to recognize when you're fighting a losing battle — and be okay with that. According to the video, "those who fail regularly and keep trying anyway are better equipped to respond to challenges and setbacks." Accepting — and learning from — failure puts you in a position to succeed later.

Check out the video in its entirety to learn what shapes and fuels your confidence as time goes on.
Video Via YouTube.
Advertisement

More from Spirit

As you might have heard by now, the first black moon since 2014 will rise this Friday night. As ominous as it sounds, the black moon is just another term...
Let us all hold hands and increase the peace. This Monday, September 26, a rare event is happening in the skies. The radiant Sun and broad-minded Jupiter ...
What a week it’s been, stargazers. First, we were told our Zodiac signs have changed, that there's now a 13th sign, and that apparently everything we ...
(Paid Content) Your love life heats up as Venus heads into fun and flirty Virgo this month. And your beauty game responds in kind. Look for makeup that’s ...
Change is in the air: The days are ending earlier, the summer heat is dying down, and these are only signs of bigger things to come. The autumn season ...
If you're a big fan of personality quizzes, you probably know everything a quiz can tell you about yourself, from your Myers-Briggs type to what your ...
In case you missed it, this past weekend bore witness to an astrological shake-up thousands of years in the making (and also one that we'd already lived ...
(Paid Content) As eclipse season unlocks hidden desires in your love life, you’re able to approach relationships from a place of knowledge. Let that be a ...
Was your flight delayed? Blame Mercury retrograde. Notice some suspicious charges on your credit card? Blame Mercury retrograde. Get into a shouting match ...
Tired of stressing and obsessing? Turn your solo missions into tag-team ventures and watch how easy everything becomes. On Thursday, the sun wraps its ...
Here at Refinery29, we invest a lot of meaning in the astrological sign we were born into — like, a lot a lot. Imagine our surprise (and okay, slight ...
This month's full moon and 2016's final eclipse will collide this Friday, September 16. East Coasters will be able to see the moon as early as 3:05 p.m, ...
St. Matthew Catholic Church: LEAD Ministry from Eric Kruszewski on Vimeo. When journalist and videographer Eric Kruszewski first learned about LEAD, an ...
Supersize swagger? Check! This Tuesday, pushy Mars locks into a tangled angle with the ego-driven sun. While it's great to be confident, we could get ...