Women Watching Porn: 10 True Stories, No Clichés

Porn, for women, is kinda like the Wizard of Oz hiding behind his curtain. No matter how outsized a viewer's habit may be, there's still the urge to keep secret what, for many, can still be considered scandalous. Furthermore, while some men don't have a problem talking about it with their buddies, women are more likely to bring up a personal bedroom sesh than one they watched on a screen, solo. Well, we'd like to change that. In order to pull back that curtain, we asked 10 women about their porn-watching particulars.
As one might guess, it was sheer inquisitiveness that drove most of these ladies to tune in. Curiosity, of course, and the desire to turn their real-life romps up to red-hot. So, if you've been cautiously toying with the idea of suspending sexual disbelief, come along. After clicking through, you'll see that you're not alone.
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Foreplay Fun

Current age: 28

Age she first experimented with porn: "First in high school, and then again a couple of years ago."

What prompted her to watch: "I thought it would teach me a few more things about sex."

How she felt while watching it: "No shame. Why should I? All my guy friends watch porn and openly talk about it. I don't bring up the topic of porn in my everyday conversations with my girlfriends, of course, but if someone were to bring it up, I don't mind chiming in."

How regularly she watches: "I watch it whenever the mood strikes. Maybe once or twice a month, for about ten minutes or less? I can't watch porn for too long because I'll get desensitized to it all quickly."

Whether or not porn has helped her sex life: "Yes, it's helped. There is usually a lot more emphasis on foreplay in porn which is pretty fun to pick up on. So, I think it makes for a better sexual experience in real life, too."
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Fantasy World

Current age: 23

Age she first experimented with porn: 13

What prompted her to watch: "Curiosity and fantasy — and probably seeing semi-graphic pictures of women in media and advertising."

How she felt while watching it: "A little scared, but not ashamed. Turned on, but a bit confused."

How regularly she watches: "I go through phases in terms of how often — and how much — but it's definitely a fairly regular thing for me, even though it has only become that in the last two years or so. When I'm in an 'on' phase, I probably watch or look at some kind of porn two to three times a week."

Whether or not porn has helped her sex life: "I think it's helped me get more in touch with and accept a lot of my deeper fantasies, some of which I am comfortable incorporating into my real-life sex, some not so much. It's definitely provided me with a lot clearer material for fantasy, which makes it easier for me to orgasm with or without a partner.

"I don't necessarily envision specific scenes from porn, but just having seen some previously vague fantasies realized on screen or in drawings has expanded my imagination, and made me more able to visualize things I find sexy in my mind's eye, and bring it up as needed."
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What's The Big Deal?

Current age: 23

Age she first experimented with porn: 18

What prompted her to watch: "I was curious what the big deal was!"

How she felt while watching it: "Fascinated, and a little disgusted."

How regularly she watches: "Maybe once every three months."

Whether or not porn has helped her sex life: "It's fun to do with your partner on occasion to spice things up!"
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Awkward Moment

Current age: 31

Age she first experimented with porn: 22

What prompted her to watch: "At the time, I was with a boyfriend who wanted me to watch it with him, so that was my first (and pretty awkward) experience!"

How she felt while watching it: "I felt embarrassed when I was with him, so I started watching it by myself to try to get more comfortable. During the time I [was] dating him, I never really got into it. But, I managed to get comfortable on my own to the point where I actually enjoy it."

How regularly she watches: "I don't have a set 'porn schedule,' but at least three to five times a month."

Whether or not porn has helped her sex life: "I don't think I'll feel comfortable watching porn with a boyfriend — or even spouse. But, personally, it's encouraged me to experiment a bit more."
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Snooping Around

Current age: 27

Age she first experimented with porn: 19

What prompted her to watch: "I found my dad's stash!"

How she felt while watching it: "Ashamed... then excited. Then creeped out for obvious reasons."

How regularly she watches: "A couple times a month; sometimes more. But, I use my own resources."

Whether or not porn has helped her sex life: "It can be exciting and help get you worked up for the right occasion. I try to stay away from what seems exploitative. Most of what I watch would probably be considered pretty mainstream and vanilla. I'm not sure I'll watch it for my whole life, but right now I enjoy it once in a while."
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Not A Regular

Current age: 22

Age she first experimented with porn: 21

What prompted her to watch: "Curiosity."

How she felt while watching it: "Intrigued and turned on."

How regularly she watches: "Not regularly. Once every two months or so."

Whether or not porn has helped her sex life: "I don't think it's changed it at all."
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Pleasure Seeker

Current age: 23

Age she first experimented with porn: 21

What prompted her to watch: "I wanted pleasure."

How she felt while watching it: "At first ashamed and weird. But, I began to accept it as we are all sexual creatures."

How regularly she watches: "Maybe two to three times a week."

Whether or not porn has helped her sex life: "Yes! I've actually learned a lot and have become more comfortable with experimentation."
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Shmeh

Current age: 23

Age she first experimented with porn: 23

What prompted her to watch: "I was interested in seeing why everyone else watched it. I had never been interested in it for myself."

How she felt while watching it: "I was very neutral about it. While it didn't faze me, I was hoping to be more affected by it."

How regularly she watches: "I don't."

Whether or not porn has helped her sex life: "It hasn't."
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Semi-Skeptical

Current age: 30

Age she first experimented with porn: 29

What prompted her to watch: "It started as curiosity. But, now that I know what it's all about, it's more of a vehicle to get turned on."

How she felt while watching it: "Part ashamed and part turned on. I don't think I would ever have the guts to present it to my boyfriend as an option for foreplay. In fact, I think that would be pretty awkward. Also, I am by no means a porn expert, but you don't have to dig very deep to realize there's a lot of weird stuff out there."

How regularly she watches: "I wouldn't say 'regular,' but at least a couple of times a month."

Whether or not porn has helped her sex life: "In some ways...It has made me a bit more confident about letting my inhibitions down."
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Cold Feet

Current age: 31

Age she first experimented with porn: N/A

What prompted her to watch: "I have actually never watched porn. While I can understand the draw, I just can't bring myself to do it — something about if feels dirty to me. And, honestly, I am not having any problems with my vibrator now, so why fix what isn't broken?"
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