They say New York City is for lovers, and more often than not, that's true. There's nothing better than strolling a West Village street with your one and only, stopping to share a smooch and a Magnolia cupcake. But, when the honeymoon is over and a relationship fails, sometimes the Big Apple is the worst place to be — especially if you and your plus-one were shacking up. After all, a city where spaces are small and rent is out-of-this-world doesn't quite lend itself to quick housing transitions. If you shed blood, sweat, tears, and most of your savings account to find your love nest, it's understandable if the thought of giving it up — just because your silly relationship is over — is too much to bear.
According to The New York Times, this is a phenomenon among young New Yorkers who forgo the traditional viewpoint that moving in together is a step towards marriage or permanent partnership, and instead begin cohabitation out of convenience or to stay within budget. At first glance, it makes sense. If you're constantly schlepping back and forth between your Brooklyn apartment and your guy's pad in Murray Hill, or shelling out an arm and a leg for a bedroom you rarely sleep in, why not just bite the bullet and move in together? But, the confines of the city often take a toll on even the strongest relationship, and accelerating a coupledom before you're ready can wreak havoc on your personal life.
The paper reports that many young couples opt to stick it out in the same apartment even after they've called it quits, for the sake of their bank accounts. And, if you think going through a normal breakup is hard to do, just try to get through it while your ex sleeps on the couch every night (or, worse, on the other side of the bed). So, what's a gal (or guy) in love to do? Besides the obvious — waiting until you and your significant other are truly ready to build a life together within 400 square feet — prepare for the worst with a "what if" conversation, ensuring a backup plan if things go south, and that any housing issues are worked out before you call it quits. It may not be romantic, but it sure beats ruining your credit when your peaced-out boyfriend refuses to pay rent. (The New York Times)
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